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Codes to Better Sex (part 1)

When it comes to sexual relationships, many people tend to focus on performance and meeting certain expectations, often overlooking the importance of pleasure, fun, and open communication. However, these overlooked aspects are the cornerstones of healthy sexual relationships and deep intimacy. In this blog, we will explore 5 principles to consider in relationship to your sex life.

1. Pleasure over Performance

One of the most significant shifts in improving sexual relationships is the transition from a performance-based mindset to one centered on pleasure. When both partners prioritize the enjoyment of the experience rather than achieving specific outcomes, the pressure is alleviated, and a sense of relaxation and authenticity can prevail. This shift allows couples to explore their desires without the fear of judgment or rejection, ultimately leading to a more satisfying and intimate connection.

2. The Priority of Fun

Sex should be treated as a form of play & celebartion of our union. After all, play is how we learn, bond, and experience joy. When we prioritize having fun during sexual encounters, we create a safe and enjoyable space for exploration. Laughing together and enjoying light-hearted moments can not only deepen intimacy but also enhance the overall experience.

3. Normalizing Insecurities

Insecurities are a part of being human, and everyone has them, even in the realm of sexuality. Normalizing and addressing insecurities is essential. When partners openly discuss their vulnerabilities and offer support, they build trust and intimacy. This emotional connection can improve sexual relationships, as individuals feel safe and accepted for who they are.

4. Removing Expectations and Pressure

Expectations and pressure can be detrimental to sexual relationships. When both partners let go of the pressure to meet certain standards or expectations, they create space for a more relaxed and spontaneous experience. This leads to a more profound sense of intimacy and a stronger emotional connection.

5. Engaging All Five Senses

Sexuality is a multi-sensory experience, and by engaging all five senses, we can create a more profound connection. The touch, taste, smell, sight, and sound all play a role in heightening pleasure and enhancing intimacy. Incorporating sensual elements beyond touch can lead to a richer and more fulfilling sexual relationship.

By adopting these principles, couples can foster a profound emotional connection and a more fulfilling and satisfying sexual life, ultimately strengthening their overall relationship. Remember, when sex becomes about intimacy, healing and enjoyment, the benefits ripple through all aspects of the partnership.

Catch part 2 of this blog next week for 5 more juicy tips!

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